// Abby Lee Miller.//

okay, i understand that abby’s trying to make family a very important aspect of dance. it is extremely important that dancers have support from their families when they are rehearsing and performing because dance can be stressful and daunting, and it’s definitely a lot of hard work.  

however!

abby should not be punishing nia because her mom couldn’t be at the parent meeting or at the competition.  the other dance moms in this group don’t work.  they’re just dance moms.  they have nothing else going on.  which is cool.  that’s great.  i’m glad they can be there for their daughters 1 million percent.  but nia’s mom has another job on top of being a dance mom.  so i can understand why nia’s mom couldn’t make it to one weekend of competition.  but abby is punishing nia for her mom’s absence.  that’s not what she should be doing.  nia is the dancer.  nia is the one who needs to work on her dances.  the moms just sit in the room above the studio and bitch.  there’s no point in nia’s mom being at the rehearsal.  yeah, it sucks that she couldn’t be at the competition, but one absence can be excused.  nia still danced beautifully even though her mom wasn’t there, so abby should recognize that and get rid of the fact that holly wasn’t there.  it’s just frustrating how stubborn abby is and how disrespectful she can be to the students and to their parents.

i wonder how much these moms pay to have their daughters dance for abby.  i bet it’s thousands of dollars.  but, in all honesty, what are these girls really getting?  they’re being told that (1) they’ll never live up to maddie because she’s the best, (2) their best is never good enough, and (3) if they dance anywhere else on the planet, they will NEVER succeed.  if i were dancing there, i would NOT wanna go to rehearsal ever.  they get rarely ANY positive reinforcement or encouragement from abby.  they’re pushed to their absolutely limits.  i’m sure they’re physically and emotionally drained.  and no matter how much work they put in, they’re never good enough in abby’s eyes.  nope.  i’m sorry.  fuck that.  and these moms are either completely blind or just really love the money they get from being on a reality show because i would NEVER subject my child to that kind of trauma and verbal abuse they get at abby’s studio.  hell no.